Here's an idea. Rather than seeking just the right career and employer, why not live on an intentuional community? It could be a rural commune, or urban co-op house.

Take your breaks when you need them. Be your own boss. Share the running of community businesses.
Raise your children where you work; life is an integrated whole, not fragmented.

Check out this website run by Fellowship for Intentional Community.

It's my plan. I've been to a few and plan to visit more. If one doesn't suit me or work out, I'll try another, because I see the mainstream as unhealthy.

Drop me a line if you develope or share the interest!

fic.ic.org/